Don't Put Energy Into People Who Don't Appreciate It (Apply THIS TRICK Instead)

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Don't put energy into people who don't appreciate it. Instead, save your energy for the ones who truly value it. Have you ever tried to change someone for the better, but that someone has no intention of changing, regardless of what you’re trying? Did you keep showing up for someone, but that person just keeps taking it for granted? You might even feel ignored by someone, while you are the one putting a lot of energy effort into that relationship. It seems not fair, right? And I think we’ve all been there. We care about a certain individual, a friend, a loved one, and we are prepared to go to the end of the world for them. However, not in all cases, that same individual would do the same for you. 

It should come from both ways

In my opinion a relationship should come from both ways, whether it’s a business, friendly or intimate relationship. It can be quite frustrating and sometimes even devastating when you give it a 100% but only get 50%, or less, in return. Many of us even still think that it’s OUR fault that it’s not working. We’re giving our all and still blame ourselves for the inequality in a relationship. However, there’s one important thing that we should realize, and it might be very difficult to realize it, but the truth is that not everyone in this world is for you, and you are not for everyone either. In fact, it would be naive to think the opposite. We’re all unique individuals with different needs, and you can’t expect every relationship to work out as you might have imagined yourself. When you do believe in that expectation to come true, you’ll just keep pushing and forcing, which will lead to you having no energy left for the people who DO value your efforts. For the people who do appreciate you, and love you unconditionally. They deserve your energy.

"the only thing that kept the relationship going, is YOU"

Once you understand this what I just mentioned, it’s more likely that you recognize it’s time to stop giving those or that particular individual energy, attention and chances, time after time. You will realize that the only thing that kept the relationship going, is YOU. It’s very obvious that the other person is not open to receive your energy. So, why would you keep trying? All that time and energy you can save for people who truly deserve and value it. When you start conserving for and directing your energy to those kinds of people, those relationships will blossom when you keep feeding it with every piece of love and energy you can find inside yourself. I believe we all have love in abundance, but we’re unable to give all of it when we are giving it to people who aren’t open to receive it. Every time you give your love and energy to someone who does not value it, a piece of your love, energy AND time, is gone. So save it for the ones who ARE open for it. For relationships that are 2-sided. 

Life's too short

Relationships which are one-sided will simply not survive. Those kinds of relationships will only leave you burned out in the end. They provide you with countless disappointments and eventually you’ll get sick and tired of the fact that you’re being the only one who’s putting so much effort into the relationship. Before you know it, you have no energy left. You’ll be completely depleted and therefore have no energy left for the people who DO appreciate you. That would be just a shame, right? Life’s too short, in my opinion. Relationships should be fulfilling for both parties and of course we’re not perfect, but it’s someone’s attitude and integrity that matters in this case. 

Energy defines our existence

By the way, have you ever took the time to think about what energy really is and means? Have you ever thought that energy is the most important thing we have? It defines our existence. I actually cannot emphasize the importance of this enough. 

Everything is energy. I came across a quote recently which got stuck in my mind, and it was that energy begins in your mind, then gets amplified by your emotions, and your actions will increase its momentum. Whatever you spend your energy on will provide a certain outcome, but in the world of relationships it just does not always give the outcome we wished or hoped for, or the outcome we believe we deserve. Therefore, saving your energy for the people who appreciate it is of utmost high importance. 

How to conserve your energy

One way that can help you conserve your energy for the people who do value it is to realize the value of your own life. This is your life, and I think it is very important that you realize that every moment matters. Life is very unpredictable, and you never know what could happen. When you value every single moment, I think you become more careful about the way you spend those moments. You are not a doormat, and you deserve to be treated with respect and to be treated well. Even more than well! It’s time to raise your frequency, and you’ll see that others will adjust. You will also experience that not everyone is ready to meet you on the same wavelength, but you know what? It’s perfectly fine. Who appreciate you like you appreciate them, will stay. Others who do not, will move away. There’s no room for them in your life. 

Take a step back

I don’t see any good reason to put my energy into people who don’t appreciate it. I do think that people deserve one or more chances though. You cannot know right away that it’s not going to work, but I believe it’s wise to keep paying attention at all times. Unfortunately, there are people in this world who take advantage of our goodness. Sometimes we’re blind to such behavior and therefore it’s good to take a step back from time to time, to analyze the relationships where you are putting your energy into. You can even keep a sort of relationship journal to write down your observations and perceptions of a certain relationship. This can be quite handy if you want to discuss what you’re going through. To be able to see how the way of experiencing the relationship differs from how that other person experiences it. Maybe the other person is unaware of his or her absence of effort. Maybe you are only THINKING that you’re putting that much effort in that particular relationship, but maybe it’s not in line with reality. We should always be open to the fact that what we experience is not necessarily experienced in the same way by another individual. We all see life through different eyes and what for one person is reality, might not be reality for you. 

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